Rewriting Your Love Story: How to Move from Anxious or Avoidant to Secure

Rewriting Your Love Story: How to Move from Anxious or Avoidant to Secure is a workbook-meets-guide for anyone tired of the chase, the shutdown, and the “why do I keep ending up here?” loop. If texts send you spiraling, closeness makes you bolt, or you toggle between both, this book gives you a clear, compassionate path out—no pop-psych fluff, just science, stories, and step-by-step practice.

Grounded in attachment research (Bowlby, Ainsworth) and modern neuroscience, the book unpacks why your patterns formed—and shows you how to change them. You’ll learn to calm your nervous system, rewrite the inner dialogue that fuels anxiety or distance, and practice secure behaviors in real life until they become your new normal.

Inside, you’ll find:

• The Attachment Shift Method: a practical, three-step system—Self-Security First → Rewrite Your Inner Dialogue → Real-World Rehearsals.
• Quizzes & quick self-checks to pinpoint your patterns (anxious, avoidant, disorganized) and track your progress.
• “Secure scripts” for the moments that matter: texting, setting boundaries, asking for needs, and repairing after conflict.
• Fast + deep wins you can use today—micro-regulation, one-line reframes, and 60-second resets.
• The Invisible Script: spot the family, cultural, and media rules you absorbed—and rewrite them into secure beliefs.
• Inner child work made simple: gentle exercises to meet unmet needs without getting stuck in the past.
• The chemistry of attachment: why intensity can feel addictive—and how to choose steady, healthy attraction.
• Dating from a secure lens: green-light traits to trust, red flags to skip, and how to pace intimacy.
• Conflict without fear: the six-step Conflict Map for repair instead of rupture.
• Your Secure Self Blueprint: a final, personal “Secure Contract” to maintain your new baseline in every relationship.

Whether you’re single, dating, or partnered, this book helps you move from overthinking or avoidance to clarity, calm, and real connection. You don’t have to chase love or run from it. You can feel safe—and loved—at the same time.